It’s amazing how radically your perspective changes just by making some tweaks to your thinking here and there. Agreement with others’ definitions is just one of those areas. I hadn’t realized how many areas of belief I had assumed simply because I was taught a certain interpretation and stuck with it.
Once I realized the freedom I had to question, think for myself, and apprehend truth that was not hiding from me…the results were amazing. Knowing God doesn’t fault me for this mind I have that thinks, analyzes, reasons and asks the hard questions is so liberating. I have spent far too long apologizing for that ability He gave to me. And I spent most of that time apologizing to people who were unwilling to use their own minds.
One area I assumed I had understood correctly was that of gossip. However, the nagging questions remained that were concerned with my sense of justice being violated.
When something happened that was truly an injustice, or sin, why was it wrong of me to point that out? Why did the person who noticed the injustice become guilty as well? And what of the injustice? Why had God shown it to me if I was to do nothing? What purpose did that serve?
I’ve heard all the teachings on prophecy and discernment…”discernment is never a cause to fault-finding but to intercession.” I’ve quoted that I don’t know how many times myself. Why the leap to intercession as the only proper response to discernment? Why does speaking out against injustice imply a lack of love, self-control, or humility?
I’ll tell you why: because you have been conditioned all your church-life to think so. It’s another way we ultimately become passive and allow the greater injustices to remain unchecked. It doesn’t start this way..we begin by telling ourselves that because we are also sinners, we should not judge others.
I agree that gossip is sinful. The Bible is clear on this. But, gossip has been determined to be sinful because of our emotional response. Don’t be fooled: It is our emotional response that is under attack really, not the action of gossip. Gossip is one manifestation of our emotional response to an injustice we perceive.
So, teachers have incorrectly taught us that gossip is wrong because our emotional response is wrong. And if we want to stop gossipping, then we better change our emotional response to do so. Just get over it they say.
This is a dangerous assumption to make because it says that we don’t have the right to own our own emotions, whatever the sum of them may be. Make no mistake: That is a HUGE distinction they are making. If I can’t own my emotional response, then I don’t own myself. And this is precisely the point. If you surrender the right to your emotional responses, whatever they are, then you surrender the right to your mind, and your very life.
The emotional response is not sinful in and of itself. The injustice perceived is certainly sinful, and of course gossip as a response is. So if gossip is not sinful because the emotional response that prompts gossip is not wrong, then why is gossip sinful?
What happens when people have their hands tied? They cannot take action. They continue to see the injustice before them as clearly as ever but remain powerless to do anything about it. Why are they powerless? Well, that is another post. But it begins with their belief that they are, but in fact they are not.
When someone sees an injustice they have two responses: action or inaction. Passive or aggressive response. Many say that if anything, intercession is the best response to seeing an injustice. They have at least taken the half step to realizing that taking no action inevitably results in gossip. By praying about something, you are at least taking some form of action.
People who gossip are people who are too fearful to take action. They refuse to exercise faith, either by means of intercession or by means of another action. Certainly speaking out against the injustices discerned is action that is acceptable.
So the next time you see an injustice..take action. If you remain passive, you will invariably gripe, grumble and complain. And if those you confront about the injustice trot out the ol’ “you’re not trusting our authority” or you are complaining…point out to them that what they define as complaining you see as taking action. And don’t apologize for it.
If we allow those in leadership to deny us the ability to own our emotional responses, we will never have the freedom to take action for any injustice. We will doubt what we discern, feel guilty as a result of our discernment, and begin gossipping when it becomes too much to bear.
Don’t let them attack your emotional response – anger, love, pain, depression..whatever it is, it’s yours. God has given us powerful emotions for a purpose. Don’t surrender them to someone else to manipulate and determine how you deal with them.
May 23, 2009 at 9:54 am
Hey Juli,
Just read this and was just nodding the whole time. Another thing to add to your eloquent diction is that the “indoctrination” is so on the “sly”. First it sounds right, biblical…then it morphs into any information that doesnt involve you (or even if it does), that leaves a negative flavor is gossip or slander. I wonder….why do we watch the news? Read articles? What about Osama Bin Laden…do we not feel “negative” towards him? Are’nt we being resposnsible Americans by trying to learn the truth of the depth of his respsonsiblity? Did we sin by listening to reports and/or allegations of “fault” when it came to terrorrism attacks? How much more so are we responsible to our God then???!! We feel comfortable and entitled to have information about what is going on in our world…but then comes church and we feel “at peace” to trust those in authority, almost blindly. What a double standard it is. I would challenge “the Guys” to stop reading Sports Illustrated articles and the newspaper…the news cast…as it gives nothing but information as it doesn not directly involve you and see how far we’d get. The desire for knowledge and to just simply know current events would of course over-rule as it should….again, how much more so should then God’s people in and around our church??
Just some thougts…Praying for all of us as we awaken and that we stay awake!
Robyn
PS-the two qutoes I heard most often were: If you are not part of the problem, you are not part of the solution. And, Be careful not to take up anothers offense…which seem to me to be a direct slap in the face of the GOspel. Are we not commanded (not requested) to carry eachothers burdens? Did not the Samaratin choose to carry that fallen maNs burdens? And siNce we are a “family” then WE ARE part of the problem AND are part of the solution??!! HMMMMMMM……….:-)
May 23, 2009 at 4:40 pm
Robyn, excellent points! I especially like the idea of calling CJ and others to account with their redefinition of gossip to include reading Sports Illustrated…I think they would balk at that, but you are so right! It’s exactly the same. It’s information. And we decide how to respond.
I always hated those quotes too…I’m convinced that churches who have members who have slogans and buzz words are brainwashed…stop just once and ask someone who spouts one of them to you to EXPLAIN it and justify it, they can’t. Why? They assume you know, after all it IS a buzz word..but the problem is everyone has defined them to mean what they want, and that information isn’t shared among others..hence the confusion and cruddy communication.
I noticed a new catch phrase for SGM this past year has been “vision casting” which is just a horrific term in my opinion, for a multitude of reasons..
thanks for reading along – hope you are doing well! Had not heard from you in a while but I do hope you are enjoying life, liberty in Christ and the pursuit of HAPPINESS! haha
July 7, 2009 at 8:42 am
Robyn- I am ashamed to say not only did i adopt those slogans i used them in my council to others who were struggling with what pastors were saying to them or CGL’s for that matter. I cringe when i read them.